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Quaker, Quaker, Liar, Liar

1/6/2023

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All people are liars. Quakers are people. Therefore, Quakers are liars. But, there are lies; and there are lies. There are categories of lying. Some lies are compatible with the bedrock Quaker principle of Truth. Others are not. Those lies that Quakers shouldn’t tell are self-serving and—according to Arash Emamzadeh—include the following types:

  1. To avoid being judged or feel shame.
  2. With the aim of avoiding punishment.
  3. To protect oneself from retaliation.
  4. For no “good reason” (e.g., compulsive lying).
  5. To present oneself in a positive way and impress others.
  6. To obtain rewards
  7. Due to carelessness and impulsiveness.
  8. To experience pleasure from deceiving others.
  9. With the aim of keeping personal information secret.

So, what kinds of lie can a good Quaker tell? Well, if the lie is pro-social or altruistic, it’s permissible. Suppose you accidentally meet someone you don’t really like. If you say “Glad to see you,” that’s pro-social and not really un-Quakerly. Or, if you tell a young child that Santa Claus brought the gifts around the Christmas tree, that’s altruistic and needn’t trouble your Quaker conscience. Unfortunately, I suspect that all Quakers sometimes tell lies that fall in the nine self-serving categories. After all, Quakers are human!

~ Richard Russell  
2 Comments
Donald Newman Lathrop
1/13/2023 07:20:27 pm

Very interesting and challenging.

Thanks!

Peace,
Don

P.S. Who's the lovely individual with the lying nose?

Reply
Richard S Russell
1/14/2023 06:03:24 am

Hi, Don.

I don't know who the girl is, but she's certainly more beautiful than the Disney Pinocchio!

Richard

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